This weekend we watched the period piece called “Wives and Daughters”. While a fun “Jane Austen” type of movie, it had lots of soap opera machinations and manipulation. It is great fun to watch that in a movie but not much fun to live in real life. That is why The 2nd Law of Hadley is “The best game is no game!”
There are 3 ways to get someone to behave in a certain way:
If you are not used to using the third option, it may feel like it involves some risk. Your habit may be using the first two in either a subtle or strong way. With practice and forethought, direct discussion is always better (unless you are perhaps in a Jane Austen movie or in politics).
If you have a situation that you are not dealing with for whatever reason, or if you have tried coercion or manipulation and they have not worked (and probably made the situation worse), I highly recommend you try the direct approach.
If you and your team need to directly deal with issues and to keep your success in plain sight, call us at 800-786-4332, or email Info@AppliedVisionWorks.com. It only takes 30 minutes to get started!